As I have grown older and weathered the loss of an ever increasing number of family and dear friends, I find myself searching for words of comfort to all who are affected. Too often, I am not able to find such words within me, and I look outside myself for that which seems to express my feelings. As I did so today while thinking of Charlie, the many years that have passed since I first met him in Germany back in 1971, and all of the "wild and crazy" times that our families have shared since, I found the following and thought it most appropriate for the loss of someone special to all of us -
Feel No Guilt In Laughter Author unknown
Feel no guilt in laughter; he’d know how much you care.
Feel no sorrow in a smile that he is not here to share.
You cannot grieve forever; he would not want you to.
He’d hope that you could carry on the way you always do.
So, talk about the good times and the way you showed you cared,
The days you spent together, all the happiness you shared.
Let memories surround you, a word someone may say,
Will suddenly recapture a time, an hour, a day,
That brings him back as clearly as though he were still here,
And fills you with the feeling that he is always near.
For if you keep those moments, you will never be apart,
And he will live forever, locked safely within your heart.